Legend of the Corsair

Great article CoB found for me over on CNN's website. Reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend a long while back about the perfect house. It always came down to having the ability to get a restful night sleep and room for plenty of books... and a few hidden doors and so forth. Great idea for built in bookcase below... but I'm more of a built in and hidden behind panels type of person, ideally. If anyone knows of a comfortable fold up into the wall type of bed setup I would be interested. Just as long as you can use a tempurpedic (spelling?) mattress for it!



Anyway... I don't think the whole "separate owner suites" is necessary, but maybe a layout where the master bath, and maybe a private sitting area slash den slash whatever room becomes the middle ground for two bedrooms. Obviously, the closet space would be separate, adjoining the respective bedroom. Shit yeah. I read this article once, that I really agree with, where the bedroom was regarded as the "for sleep only" type of retreat. That the design and purpose of the room should be ultimately geared toward relaxing a person to the point where sleep was easy to fall into while residing there. I totally agree with that. Pillow talk would still happen, if that is what most people refer to as post-coital chats. Normal intercourse, verbal or otherwise, could still occur in every other portion of the house or even, as below in the article, as an "invitation back to my place" sort of situation. What's wrong with that?

We're married, sleeping separately
By Diane Mapes

Story Highlights
* 23 percent of married couples sleep alone, a study finds
* Experts say requests for two master bedrooms in new homes are growing
* Psychologist warns sleeping apart could spell trouble
* Wife says sleeping apart makes her appreciate husband more

-- It was the sock in the jaw that finally did it.

"We were lying in bed spooning when he had an elbow spasm and punched me in the jaw," says Barbara, a 55-year-old graphic designer from Lansing, Michigan, who asked that her last name not be used.

"I was already so sleep-deprived from his twitching and snoring that I was psychotic. After that, I just told him, 'It's all over, honey.'"

Barbara's husband of 22 years, who asked not to be identified, moved into another bedroom. They're among many loving couples who -- because of snoring, restless legs, opposite schedules or other nocturnal difficulties -- have decided to sleep apart.
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Having separate sleeping quarters is like homeschooling (watched a piece on the latter on Sunday Morning today) are nothing new at all to the world. With a general rise of the standard of living in an industrial society, you will inevitably see this recurring. There's nothing wrong with either in my mind. Yes. It is a privilege. There are some things you can be frugal about, true; you can still have separate rooms but at the same time have a small footprint (both in the size of the house and net carbon/waste). If I were to ever consider having children I would hope that I would have the recourse and resources to homeschool my kids. Trust it from someone who worked for an oh so ever short time in the public school system... It is worth the time, effort and the necessary rearrangement of financial situation.