Adoption, you have to make friends over time, and might or might not. Biological, you start out loving em, right?
Actually no, you don't. In the biological way you have the entire pregnancy (10 months total) to make an imaginary relationship up with your fetus. You bond with it, only in your mind, making plans and whatever. You can do the same in an adoption process, however behavioral expression, who that individual is inherently right? The core of the person may not always turn out to be what you want or expect. The decision is whether or not you will extend unconditional love to another individual in a parental mode.
How many people do you know, biological children of their parents, where the son/daughter is unable to communicate or get along with the mother/father? Shakespeare wrote about it for gawds sake, it has been the fodder of writers and playwrights for centuries. At least in adoption you can choose the individual instead of playing russian roulette on the personality compatibility scale. We, as individuals, create our own communities through friendships and so forth... And the family unit as it exists now is a societal creation.
there are examples EVERYWHERE with a lot of species that are similar to us of adoption, a choice to care for another being (usually a youngling) as if it is their own.
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I'll agree to disagree, though I'll try to sway you with this...
Date: 2006-10-28 01:41 am (UTC)Actually no, you don't. In the biological way you have the entire pregnancy (10 months total) to make an imaginary relationship up with your fetus. You bond with it, only in your mind, making plans and whatever. You can do the same in an adoption process, however behavioral expression, who that individual is inherently right? The core of the person may not always turn out to be what you want or expect. The decision is whether or not you will extend unconditional love to another individual in a parental mode.
How many people do you know, biological children of their parents, where the son/daughter is unable to communicate or get along with the mother/father? Shakespeare wrote about it for gawds sake, it has been the fodder of writers and playwrights for centuries. At least in adoption you can choose the individual instead of playing russian roulette on the personality compatibility scale. We, as individuals, create our own communities through friendships and so forth... And the family unit as it exists now is a societal creation.
there are examples EVERYWHERE with a lot of species that are similar to us of adoption, a choice to care for another being (usually a youngling) as if it is their own.